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Stuff Up Strategies
Or, how to dodge a cannonball
Have a Q and A with yourself:
What did I do wrong?
How may I have hurt or injured someone personally?
How long did the mistake last for?
Is it still ongoing with flow-on effects and negative ramifications?
How bad did it get?
Be honest and rate it on a 1–10 scale from minor to ugly, life-changing devastation.
Don’t whip yourself into a vile, self-destructive mood:
1. Forgive- 1st to yourself, 2nd to the other party
2. Apologise- 1st to yourself, 2nd the other party or everyone involved
3. Admit mistakes, own them no excuses -1st yourself, 2nd everyone
4. This takes away some hurt, hate, regret, and inclination to retaliate
5. Allow relief and healing to wash over you — be civil, smile, shake hands
6. Say a genuine thank you to all involved for their understanding
7. Feel better, it’s past, try not to do this again, let it go, and move on
